Preparing for Christmas

nativityEach year, on the day after Thanksgiving, we get out the Christmas decorations and put them all up. Long before that, I start planning what to give each person on my list. I also start marking my calendar with the dates and times of all the holiday events scheduled by groups of which I am (or some other family member is) a part. Then, in December, I or we attend all those events. But wait…there’s more! There’s all the wrapping of presents, baking holiday goodies, and planning and packing for getting to Grandma and Pampa’s house before December 25th.

You probably do many, if not all, of these things, too. There’s lots to be done to prepare for Christmas.

We’re pretty good at getting these kinds of things done. Because after all, they “have” to be done. They’re not optional.

There’s nothing wrong with doing these things. The problem comes in when we treat social and cultural preparations as necessary and spiritual preparation as optional. When we’re so focused on what we’re going to buy for whom or what activity comes next that we forget (or don’t have time) to focus on the One this celebration is all about.

I can’t tell how much time it should take to prepare oneself and one’s family spiritually for Christmas. That number would be different for every home. Nor can I tell you specifically what you should do in order to prepare. Again, that will be different for every family. But I can tell you that if you focus on the gifts to the exclusion of focusing on the Giver, you’re missing out. If you get so caught up in the trappings of Christmas that you miss the chance to contemplate its amazing spiritual beauty, your Christmas hasn’t been what it could have been.

It’s easy to let spiritual things get pushed aside, especially in December. There are so many other things clamoring for our attention that the “still, small voice” gets lost in the hubbub. We wind up observing the temporal traditions surrounding Christ’s birth but missing out on the deeper, eternal realities.

If we’re going to spend the time we need to spend focusing on Jesus instead of the chaos of the season, we’ll have to be intentional about it. If we just leave it for “when we have time”, it won’t happen.

I encourage you to spend some time giving serious consideration to how you will observe and meditate upon the true meaning of Christmas this year, as well as how you might share it with others. Will you determine to finish your Christmas shopping in November so that you will have more time in December to focus on Advent? Will you do an Advent activity with your children each day, beginning December 1? Will your family have special devotional times in addition to attending whatever services your church offers?

What will you do to make sure your children understand what Christmas is really about and see that lived out, not just paid lip service to?

Think about it. Pray about it. Plan for it. And celebrate Christmas as it was meant to be.

Colossians 3:2—Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. (ESV)

Mall Treasure Hunt

Christmas Mall Treasure HuntDuring the Advent season, the kids and I do various special activities all meant to help us focus on Jesus and His birth. One of the kids’ favorite activities is the mall treasure hunt.

I print out an identical sheet of paper for each child with pictures of things like candy canes, Santa, wreaths, stars, and presents. Then, we go to the mall with papers and pencils, pens, or crayons in hand.

When we get there, each child begins looking for the things pictured on the paper and crossing them off as they are found. All of them are usually pretty easy to find except one—the last picture on the paper. That’s because it’s a picture of the Baby Jesus.

As you can imagine, it’s always more difficult to find the Baby Jesus at the mall (they’re not allowed to “cheat” by going into the Hallmark store and looking at the ornaments) than any of the other items. That fact has led us to some great questions and discussions as we answer those questions.

Why is it so hard to find the Baby Jesus at the mall? Why is it so much easier to find Santa? Why don’t people want the Baby Jesus there like they want Santa?

But these questions aren’t the only point of the treasure hunt. That’s because there is more to teaching our children about Jesus than simply decrying the fact that Christmas is too commercial, or that Santa is more welcome than Jesus in many places. The real practicality of the discussions comes from the following questions:

Is Jesus welcome in our home? Is He welcome in our hearts? What can we do to show both Him and others that He is welcome here?

The answers to this second set of questions are what I want my children to take away from our Advent activity. I don’t want them merely to remember that they didn’t find the Baby Jesus again this year; I want them to make it a habit to evaluate their hearts to determine whether Jesus is truly welcome, and to consider how they can show Him and others that He is.

Have you ever thought about these questions? About, first of all, whether Jesus is welcome in your home and your heart? Jesus isn’t just a character we use for basing Christmas on; He’s the very Son of God, and as such, He deserves to be welcome. But have you ever welcomed Him into your heart and life?

If you have, that’s wonderful. If not, tell Him that He’s welcome now. Tell Him you want Him to make His home with you and be found with you whenever people are looking for Him. In fact, one of His names is Emmanuel, meaning “God with us”. Is He with you?  Have you shown Him that He’s welcome?

Think about it, mom. What can you (and your children) do to welcome Him? Why not make sure you’re doing it this Christmas?

Matthew 1:23—”Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and they shall call his name Immanuel” (which means, God with us). (ESV)

What do you do to show Jesus and others that He is welcome in your life and home?  Share in the comments below

Advent Activities for Kids (Week 4)

As announced, I am trying something different this year. Instead of posting weekly devotions, I will post Advent activities for each day in December up to, and including, Christmas. Each activity illustrates a particular aspect of the Christmas story and is designed to help you and your children think about this precious story in a (perhaps) new and different way. Most activities require almost no advance preparation; a few do require some prep time, and these are clearly marked. If it works better for your family to do different activities on different days, feel free to do so. Or, if you think of your own activity that would be more meaningful to you and your family, I hope you will use yours instead of mine.

My prayer is that God will use these activities to bring you and your children closer to our Savior. May He grant you a new appreciation for the tremendous gift He gave us in sending His Son, and may the peace of that Baby born in a stable rule your hearts this Christmas, and always.

December 22—In Greek, the verb phrase that is usually translated “wrapped him in swaddling cloths” is better translated “swaddled him”. Have your children swaddle a baby doll (or a real baby, if you have one, and if your child is old enough) and lay it in a bed. Ask your children what they think Mary would have had to do to take care of her baby. Encourage your children to pick up the baby (you could pretend it was crying), sing it a song, or simply pat its little head. Remind your children that you took care of them that way when they were little, and Mary had to take care of Jesus the same way. End tonight’s activity by showing your child pictures of him- or herself all swaddled up as a newborn. Talk about how you laid your child in a crib, and Mary laid Jesus in a manger.

December 23—Have your child tell you the Christmas story. If it’s at all possible, record this or take notes. (It’ll be sweet and funny to look back on later.) Your child can physically act out all the characters if he or she is so inclined. If your child is unclear about any part of the story, you can gently re-explain the parts he or she has missed. This activity will not only help them review their knowledge, but also bless your heart.

December 24—Consider letting your children open one gift each on this day. Before they open it, explain to them that every good and perfect gift that comes to them is ultimately from God (James 1:17). Tell them that God gave them the gift they are about to receive. After they have opened it, remind them to thank God directly.

December 25—(Note: advance preparation needed!) Have a birthday party for Jesus. Decorate for His party, sing “Happy Birthday”, and have cake (or another snack). Give Him presents. This will consist of offering Him the gifts you have prepared beforehand. You might make things to donate to the needy; you might collect food; you might think of a way to minister to someone in your own home. Remind your children that Jesus said that whatever we do for someone else, we do for Him, so giving to others is one way we can show Him that we love Him.

Advent Activities for Kids (Week 3)

As announced, I am trying something different this year. Instead of posting weekly devotions, I will post Advent activities for each day in December up to, and including, Christmas. Each activity illustrates a particular aspect of the Christmas story and is designed to help you and your children think about this precious story in a (perhaps) new and different way. Most activities require almost no advance preparation; a few do require some prep time, and these are clearly marked. If it works better for your family to do different activities on different days, feel free to do so. Or, if you think of your own activity that would be more meaningful to you and your family, I hope you will use yours instead of mine.

My prayer is that God will use these activities to bring you and your children closer to our Savior. May He grant you a new appreciation for the tremendous gift He gave us in sending His Son, and may the peace of that Baby born in a stable rule your hearts this Christmas, and always.

December 15—Matthew 20:28 teaches us that Jesus came not to be served, but to serve. Discuss this with your children. Set a designated time limit for each child to practice being a servant to others. You might need to give them some ideas of how to do this.

December 16—Talk with your children about how hard it is to wait for Christmas. Then, tell them that the people of Israel had been waiting hundreds of years for a Messiah. Discuss how they must have felt as they waited. After all, they were waiting for a lot more than a few material things. Discuss what it must have been like for those who knew Jesus was the Messiah to realize that He had finally come!

December 17—Spend some time talking with your children about what it must have been like to have Jesus for a brother. Point out that He was perfect. Yes, it might have been annoying that He never did anything wrong, but it would also have been wonderful that He was also perfectly loving at all times. Talk about what family life would be like if we were all perfectly loving at all times. Have your kids think of ways to show their siblings love.

December 18—(Note: lots of advance preparation needed!) Take your kids to visit the maternity ward at a hospital. If possible, have a nurse allow you to stand in the doorway of a vacant room and look at the nice place women can come to have their babies. Then, visit a barn that houses animals. Talk about the differences between the two locations. Ask your children which place would be better for having a baby in. Tell them that the place Mary gave birth to Jesus was closer to a barn than a modern hospital room. Point out that Jesus was willing to leave Heaven and come be born in a barn so He could walk among us.

December 19—(Note: small amount of advance preparation required.) Have your children draw, decorate, and cut out a large star. Suspend it from the end of a stick (or broom handle, or whatever is handy). Take them outside and tell them that when they see the star appear, they should follow it. Lead them around, holding the stick with the star on it. Lead them over to a place where you have previously hidden the figure of the baby Jesus you have made or prepared earlier (such as wrapping a doll up in a blanket). Talk about finding Jesus in an unexpected place (such as lying on the rear bumper of your vehicle). Point out that the shepherds found Him in an unexpected place, too—lying in a manger.

December 20—Teach your kids the song “Happy Birthday, Jesus”. (This is not just the traditional “Happy Birthday” song with Jesus’ name inserted; there is a completely different song by this name.) If you don’t know it, you can find it on YouTube. It’s a beautifully simple song, yet profound. Discuss why Jesus is the “real” gift (as the song says).

December 21—Have your own candlelight service. Start with one lit candle in a darkened room. Talk about how Jesus was a light shining in our dark world, which was dark because of sin. (You may want to read from John 1.) Explain to your children that as more people came to believe in Jesus, the light spread (light another candle as you tell them this). If your children are old enough, have them take a lit candle, walk over to another candle, and say something simple, such as, “The light of Jesus has come into our world.” Then have your child light the candle. Do this with several candles, until there are several providing light to the room. Point out to your children that the more light there is, the less darkness there is room for. Tell them that as we spread Jesus’ light into the world, the darkness of the world will diminish, too.

Advent Activities for Kids (Week 2)

As announced, I am trying something different this year. Instead of posting weekly devotions, I will post Advent activities for each day in December up to, and including, Christmas. Each activity illustrates a particular aspect of the Christmas story and is designed to help you and your children think about this precious story in a (perhaps) new and different way. Most activities require almost no advance preparation; a few do require some prep time, and these are clearly marked. If it works better for your family to do different activities on different days, feel free to do so. Or, if you think of your own activity that would be more meaningful to you and your family, I hope you will use yours instead of mine.

My prayer is that God will use these activities to bring you and your children closer to our Savior. May He grant you a new appreciation for the tremendous gift He gave us in sending His Son, and may the peace of that Baby born in a stable rule your hearts this Christmas, and always.

December 8—Make a paper chain out of construction paper, with one link representing each day left until Christmas Day. (If desired, you can make extra links and let your children rip them off until you get to the number of links you need to have.) Point out that just as we look forward to Christmas, when Jesus was born, so we also look forward to His return, when He will come take all those who love Him to live with Him in Heaven.

December 9—Remind your children that some people don’t know the story of Jesus’ birth. Some people may have never heard of Him, or may not realize how important He is. Who does your family know that needs to hear the good news of Christmas? Make plans as to how you might share it with that person.

December 10—(Note: requires advance preparation!) You will need Styrofoam cups, jingle bells, and pipe cleaners. Punch two small holes in the bottom of the cup. Thread one end of the pipe cleaner through one hole. String a jingle bell onto the end that’s inside the cup, then thread that end back up and out through the other hole. Twist both ends together to make a handle. Let your kids have fun ringing their bells. Talk about what a neat sound it is to hear bells ringing. Point out that it’s even better to hear the good news about Jesus. Suggest that every time they hear a bell ringing, they think about the news of Jesus being proclaimed to a world that needs to hear.

December 11—Take a trip to look at Christmas lights. (If you’re really brave, stop and get ice cream and let the kids eat it as you ride.) Admire the beauty of the lights. Talk about how just as Christmas lights light up our dark world with beauty, even so, but to a greater extent, Jesus lights up our world with His beauty. Encourage your children to shout, “Jesus is the Light of the world!” when they see a particularly beautiful display of lights.

December 12—Take your kids to visit a Salvation Army bell ringer at any place you know there will be one. Have them be prepared to put something (any amount you want, whether great or small) into the kettle. Talk about serving others and giving to those in need. If you prefer to support a different charity, feel free to do so.

December 13—Spend some time singing Christmas carols together. Make sure your kids understand the words they’re singing—not just what the words are, but the great, uplifting spiritual truths behind them.

December 14—Talk about the gifts the Wise Men brought Jesus—gold, frankincense, and myrrh. Explain to your children the possible meanings for each of these gifts (see Wikipedia.com. Use “gifts of the Magi” for a search term, then scroll down to the section entitled “Gifts”). Discuss what kinds of gifts your children could give to Jesus that reflect each of these meanings.

Advent Activities for Kids (Week 1)

As announced, I am trying something different this year. Instead of posting weekly devotions, I will post Advent activities for each day in December up to, and including, Christmas. Each activity illustrates a particular aspect of the Christmas story and is designed to help you and your children think about this precious story in a (perhaps) new and different way. Most activities require almost no advance preparation; a few do require some prep time, and these are clearly marked. If it works better for your family to do different activities on different days, feel free to do so. Or, if you think of your own activity that would be more meaningful to you and your family, I hope you will use yours instead of mine.

My prayer is that God will use these activities to bring you and your children closer to our Savior. May He grant you a new appreciation for the tremendous gift He gave us in sending His Son, and may the peace of that Baby born in a stable rule your hearts this Christmas, and always.

December 1—Make sugar cookies. Have fun cutting out, baking, and decorating them. Talk about how delicious and sweet they are. Point out to your children that as sweet as cookies and candy are, Jesus is the sweetest part of the Christmas season. Remind them that even though the cookies will soon be gone, they can experience Jesus’ sweetness throughout the Christmas season, and all year long.

December 2—If you have a nativity scene in your home, use the figures to act out the Christmas story. (If you don’t have one, you can make one cheaply using ClipArt pictures on cardboard backing, and a cardboard stable. When we did this one year, my kids loved it and were very proud of it.) Let each child have a chance to be the characters he or she wants to be.

December 3—Make birthday cards for Jesus, which you will present to Him at His birthday party (which will be the advent activity for December 25). Remind your children that Christmas is about celebrating Jesus’ birthday, not only about receiving gifts. Display the Christmas cards just as you do your children’s birthday cards.

December 4—Have a “Mall Treasure Hunt”. Print out various pictures of Christmas-related items on a sheet of paper such as candy canes, wreaths, reindeer, etc. (you can use ClipArt). Be sure to include Santa and also a picture of Baby Jesus. Go to the mall, and have your kids look for these items. When they find one, they should cross it off. They will likely have difficulty finding Baby Jesus. Point out that the reason for this is that Jesus isn’t welcome at the mall sometimes. Discuss why this might be (people don’t know Jesus; they don’t want to offend others; etc.). End by talking about what you and your family can do to show people that Jesus is welcome in your home. (Note: if, by chance, you do find a manger scene or two at the mall, point out that the secular symbols far outnumber the religious ones. Then make the point suggested above.)

December 5—(Note: advance preparation needed!) For this activity, you will need white 10-gallon trash bags, plenty of newspaper, Scotch tape, cardboard paper towel rolls or toilet paper rolls (two paper towel rolls or four toilet paper rolls per person involved), construction paper or a paper plate (one per person), and a marker. You will be making sheep so that you can then go abide in a field (your front or back yard) with your flocks. Stuff the trash bag with crumpled newspaper until it’s the desired size of your sheep. Twist off the remainder of the bag and secure it by wrapping tape around it. (If there is much extra bag left, cut some off, leaving the remainder for a tail.) Use four toilet paper rolls (or two paper towel rolls, cut in half to make four pieces) for the legs. Tape them onto the bottom. They won’t be completely stable (pun intended), but who cares? Use the paper plate or construction paper to make a face and—you guessed it—tape it onto the sheep body. Now, you have sheep. Go out to your front yard and abide in it with your flocks. Talk about how the shepherds must have felt when they were minding their own business, tending to their sheep, and suddenly, an angel appeared with an incredible announcement, and then a multitude of singing angels! If you have a front porch, let the kids take turns going up on the porch and being the angel making the announcement.

December 6— If you have a sleeping baby, great. If not, prepare a doll in a doll bed if possible. Go out your front door and be the shepherds on their pilgrimage to find the baby Jesus. Travel around to your back door and go inside. Marvel at the sleeping baby.

December 7—(Note: requires advance preparation!) Cut out the shape of a large Christmas tree and several shapes for ornaments (no need for these to be complicated, unless you want them to be). Put the Christmas tree up on the wall. Each time your child sees someone else in the family do something that makes Jesus happy, write it on an ornament and tape it to the tree.