Like a Little Child

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You know how it goes. You’ve left your child in childcare somewhere (your church, your homeschool co-op, your MOPS group), and walked away despite the tears and cries and outstretched arms calling you back.

Then, halfway through your event, the unthinkable happens: Circumstances conspire to require you to walk past the room your child is in.

Oh, no. Please, not that.

But it can’t be avoided. So you do one of two things: either you run past that door like you’re Usain Bolt, or you drop to the ground before you can be seen by anybody inside, crawl past the room—way past—then stand up, flatten yourself against the wall, and edge a few feet farther away before you resume walking normally down the middle of the hall.

Because you know what would happen if you didn’t. If your child saw you, it would all be over. The wailing would begin, and this time, it wouldn’t stop. And you’d have to pick up your child and leave early.

You don’t even want to speak above a whisper if you’re anywhere close to the door, because if your child can hear you but can’t see you, that’s even worse.

Or, to put it less traumatically, let’s say you arrive at the room to pick up your child, and your child is busy playing and doesn’t see you right away. “So how’d it go?” you ask the caregiver, and all of a sudden, your child’s head whips around toward you. He registers the fact that Hallelujah! It’s Mommy!, and makes a mad rush toward you.

You could have been standing there for five minutes watching him, with other mothers talking all around you, while your child remained deeply absorbed in his play. But the minute he hears your voice—your voice, as opposed to any other mommy’s voice—he homes in on you and runs into your arms.

I think this kind of response is exactly what Jesus was referring to when He talked about sheep not following a shepherd whose voice they didn’t recognize. He knew the sheep would hear the voice of other shepherds. But they would reserve their best response for the shepherd whose voice they know.

God wants no less from us. He wants to be so special to us that His voice is the one we attend to, even in the midst of other (perhaps very necessary) pursuits. He expects us to hear those other voices—our children, our husband, our family and friends, our boss, our society—but His desire is that the minute we hear His voice, all those other voices become secondary. He wants to capture our focus merely by speaking, to know that we are so constantly attuned to His voice that we will hear Him even above all the other voices clamoring for our attention, and that we’ll respond.

May His voice become more known, more beloved to us, than any other. May we never focus so completely on earthly voices that we have no attention left for the Voice we most need to hear. And when that Voice speaks, may we respond like a little child:

Hallelujah! Daddy’s here!

John 10:3-5—“The sheep listen to [the shepherd’s] voice. He calls his own sheep by name and leads them out. When he has brought out all his own, he goes on ahead of them, and his sheep follow him because they know his voice. But they will never follow a stranger…because they do not recognize a stranger’s voice.” (NIV)

An Open Letter to My Toddler Son

TimmyDear Timmy,

For just a moment, I can sit down, take a breather, and write you this letter. I have just put you down for a nap, and you’re likely to stay there for at least a few minutes, until you decide you’re done with being in your room by yourself, and you toddle out to find me, slowly, as if hoping that the calmness and subtlety of your re-entry into the land of the awake will somehow convince me to take you into my arms and cuddle you instead of sending you back to bed.

In fact, right now, I can hear you playing in your room instead of sleeping. Though I can’t make out your words, I hear you talking happily to yourself. So I know my time to write to you is limited. But before you come out here and seek my attention, there are some things I want to say to you.

The first is that I really do try to be the best mommy I can be. I know I get frustrated with you sometimes, and sometimes I refuse to pick you up or let you climb into my lap when all you want is Mommy’s attention. I make it a point to play with you when I can, and to do things with you, to make you laugh, and to spend time with you. It’s just that sometimes, my energy level doesn’t even come close to matching yours. I get tired. I get sick. I get drained, physically and emotionally. I do my best to set those things aside when you come to me, wanting nothing more than my attention and the security of my love for you. But sometimes, I just can’t. And I hope what you learn from this is not that I don’t want to do things for you, but that sometimes, parents need a break, too. I also hope that maybe someday, when your little boy (my grandson) comes to you, needing your attention, and you feel like you just can’t, you’ll know that it’s okay. That being weary doesn’t make you a bad parent. You’re only human.

I also want you to know how much joy and delight you bring to my life because of who you are. Words don’t adequately express this, but I’m going to try. When you laugh your fantastic, all-out belly laugh that makes your eyes squeeze shut and tears run down your cheeks, I can’t help but laugh, too. Ditto for when you say something that’s absolutely hilarious, and you don’t even realize how funny you are. When you delight in a new experience or achievement, or get really excited because of something as simple as the fact that you saw a dog in the bed of the pickup in the lane next to us, or shriek with happiness, I rejoice, too. And when you cuddle up with me before bedtime, as we sit in your recliner and I sing songs to you and read your “favorite books”…well, those times are precious beyond words, and I look forward to them every day because I love just being with you.

Yes, there are times when I’m weary or frustrated in dealing with you. Right now, for example, you’ve gotten up from your “nap” and are systematically bringing me every box and can from the pantry, asking, “What’s this?” Sometimes, you’re obstinate. Other times, you’re slow to obey. Fairly regularly, you make huge messes that I don’t discover until later, because you are sneaky and know better than to do something like that when I might be watching. You require large amounts of energy because you’re so smart and active and into everything. And, well, because you’re two. Sometimes, I just want a break. Sometimes, I just want to cry.

But even on the hard days, even on the worst days, when the tears flow for both of us and we’re both tired, frustrated, and angry, I want you to know this: I love you more than words can ever hope to express. I love you from the depths of my soul. There is no one who means more to me on this earth than your father, your siblings, and you. Even when I’m in tears because of the kind of day or week, or month I’ve had, I would never, not for a moment trade the incredible joy of getting to know you and love you and be your mother for anything in the world. I would give my life for you—not only in the small, everyday moments, but to the extent of giving up my physical life if, by doing so, I could save yours. And I wouldn’t hesitate.

But here’s what I want you to know more than anything else in this world: my love for you, as immense as it is, is nothing compared to the love that God has for you. I may have borne you in my body for nine months before giving birth to you, but God created you. Half of your DNA comes from me, but you are His creation. I’ve told you that I’d give my life for you, and I would. But He already did.

God loved you, Timmy, so much that He allowed His Son Jesus to be put to death so that you didn’t have to be (John 3:16). Personally, I can’t imagine giving up you or Kenny on behalf of anyone else. I wouldn’t give up my beloved son. But that’s what God did when He gave Jesus. And not only has He allowed Jesus to take your punishment for you, but He’s also allowed Jesus’ perfection to stand in for your track record of sins (Rom. 5:17). Why? So you and God can love each other intimately and forever.

What an incredible gift! You see, I can’t always be with you, but He’ll live inside your heart, if you want Him to (Rom. 8:11). When you’re sad, I’ll comfort you the best I can, but He will comfort you with a peace beyond all human understanding (Phil. 4:7). I will sometimes fail you though I’ll try with all my might not to, but He never will (Psalm 136). I’ll give you all the material blessings I can, but they’re really from Him anyway (James 1:17). I’ll love you with every breath I take until the day I die, and then I’ll love you from heaven, but God’s loved you since before the foundation of the world (Eph. 1:4) and will love you for all eternity.

My greatest prayer for you, Timmy, is that God will help you really know how much He loves you, and that you’ll love Him back. If somehow He can use my love for you to give you a glimpse of what His perfect love is really like, I pray He’ll do that. Because I love you deeply and beyond words.

Tonight, we’ll have our time together in your room. We’ll snuggle up in your recliner, with the lights off and the light from the hallway seeping in just enough for me to read your books. After we read, I’ll sing to you. “Are you ready for night-night?” I’ll ask. And you’ll say, as you always do, “I just want to sit here for a minute.” I’ll cuddle you even closer, and you’ll put my head down on your shoulder and snuggle in. I’ll pray you’ll feel the love I can’t adequately express flowing from my heart to yours.

And because of you, my heart will be full. I pray that yours will be full, as well.

I love you, precious son.

Love,

Mommy

When You’ve Been with Jesus

Timmy Dirty ShirtEarly that morning, my husband dressed Timmy, our two-year-old, in shorts and a short-sleeved, navy blue polo shirt. Timmy looked neat and clean (and handsome, I might add). But only a few hours later—by midmorning—the front of Timmy’s shirt was no longer pristine.

Brightly-colored flecks of Play-Doh dotted the blue cotton, visible reminders of our playtime. There were also spots of oatmeal from Timmy’s breakfast that somehow got rubbed deeper into his shirt as I was trying to clean them off. And there was dirt from our front yard because (in my experience, at least) little boys can’t play outside without getting dirty.

As I looked at those specks and splotches, I realized that it would have been obvious even to a stranger what Timmy had been involved with that day. And the thought hit me—do you and I as moms have equally clear evidence in our lives that we have been with Jesus?

Peter and John—the disciples of our Lord—had lives that clearly bore that evidence. Oh, it took them time to grow in their faith, just as it takes us. But by the time they stood before Jewish leaders and answered the leaders’ questions, their courage had become so great that it was astonishingly obvious to those men that Peter and John had been with Jesus (see the complete story in Acts 4).

What evidence do you and I bear in our lives that we have been with Jesus?

Or maybe even before that, we need to ask ourselves, Have we been with Jesus?

If you’re not a Christian, then no, you don’t have a personal relationship with Him. (Please contact me; I’d love to introduce you to my Best Friend.) But if you are a Christian, you should be spending time with Him on a regular basis. Things like prayer, Bible study, and Christian fellowship should be a regular, vital part of your life, because in these ways, you encounter Jesus.

When you do—when you spend regular time with the Lord—it will be obvious in your life. There will be evidence.

One of the ways I’ve matured as I’ve grown in my relationship with Jesus is in my compassion and love for others. Perhaps you will grow the same way as you spend time with Him. Or maybe you’ll grow in other character qualities—patience or joy, for example. Maybe, like Peter and John, you will develop a divinely inspired courage. Maybe you’ll learn to control your tongue better and speak only what is helpful for building others up and benefiting those who listen (see Eph. 4:29).

Christ shining through you might look different in some ways from the way he shines through me, your best friend, or anybody else. That’s fine. One reason God made us all different is to that we can reflect different facets of His glory. But be assured that when you spend time with Jesus, He will shine through.

You won’t be able to help but be changed as you grow in your relationship with Him. That’s because no one who truly encounters Jesus can ever be the same. And to the extent that you encounter Him, the evidence will show forth in your life.

Have you been with Jesus enough that the evidence is clear?

Acts 4:13—When they saw the courage of Peter and John and realized that they were unschooled, ordinary men, they were astonished and they took note that these men had been with Jesus. (NIV)

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Why Jesus’ Resurrection Matters to You

Women visiting Jesus' tombYesterday, on Easter, I staged an Easter egg hunt for my children in the front yard. They wound up with more candy than they needed. But getting candy isn’t the reason why Jesus’ resurrection matters.

Neither does the Easter matter simply because it means the chance to dress up in new clothes and make sure we get to church on time on Sunday morning. New clothes are fine, but they’re not the reason Easter is so important.

Sometimes, it’s easy to confuse the trappings of Easter with the purpose of Easter. If we’re not careful, we wind up thinking that Easter dinner and gift-laden Easter baskets are the whole point of it all, rather than just things that help us celebrate.

We forget that the real reason Jesus’ resurrection matters is something far more and far deeper.

It matters because by it, God signified that He accepted Jesus’ sacrifice on our behalf—that our sins could all be done away with if we acknowledge that His sacrifice was for us and receive His gift. This, we know. But we don’t often stop to think that the deepest, most profound reason Jesus’ sacrifice matters to us is because He was showing that we can be resurrected, too.

The Bible tells us that apart from Christ, we are dead in our sins. Not just sinful, but dead. Our physical bodies live and breathe, but our spirit is completely, totally lifeless. And it remains that way until Christ comes into our lives and resurrects us, making us alive together with Him.

If you’ve asked Christ to come into your heart—if you’ve acknowledged His right to rule over you and accepted His loving, generous gift of life—then you are now alive. You’ve been resurrected.

People who are physically dead can’t do anything. Without life, their bodies lie there, unable to rise or to commit even the smallest action. So it is with us when we’re spiritually dead. Our physical bodies walk around, having the appearance of life, but our spirits within us are dead. We are shells of what we could be.

When Christ resurrects us and makes us alive, however, we become capable of all kinds of things. We now have the potential to truly live (in other words, to know Christ), without just going through the motions of life. We can truly love with the love of God, and not just our puny human love. We can rejoice, we can create, we can share with others this marvelous life that God has given us.

There are plenty of people who think that their lives are pretty good without Christ. But they’re fooling themselves, because they’re not truly alive. They haven’t experienced the resurrection power of being made alive in Christ. They may think they’re alive, but in reality, they’re dead.

That’s why Christ’s resurrection matters, moms—not because of chocolate bunnies and fuzzy chicks, but because Christ offers us a resurrection, too. He offers us the chance to rise from the dead into the glorious, abundant life of a relationship with the living God.

If you want to know more about Christ, I’d love to introduce you to Him. Just check out my post on how to know God, or contact me through my website, and we’ll talk. And if you already know Him, I’m so glad to know that you’re alive. I’ve been spiritually alive for most of my physical life now, and I can tell you that there’s nothing better than truly living the way you can when Christ makes you alive. Again, if you want to know more, let’s talk. I’d love to share with you what I’ve learned.

About life.

Ephesians 2:1, 4-5—As for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins…But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions–it is by grace you have been saved.

*To find out more about what abundant life looks like for moms, check out Chaotic Joy: Finding Abundance in the Messiness of Motherhood.

Mall Treasure Hunt

Christmas Mall Treasure HuntDuring the Advent season, the kids and I do various special activities all meant to help us focus on Jesus and His birth. One of the kids’ favorite activities is the mall treasure hunt.

I print out an identical sheet of paper for each child with pictures of things like candy canes, Santa, wreaths, stars, and presents. Then, we go to the mall with papers and pencils, pens, or crayons in hand.

When we get there, each child begins looking for the things pictured on the paper and crossing them off as they are found. All of them are usually pretty easy to find except one—the last picture on the paper. That’s because it’s a picture of the Baby Jesus.

As you can imagine, it’s always more difficult to find the Baby Jesus at the mall (they’re not allowed to “cheat” by going into the Hallmark store and looking at the ornaments) than any of the other items. That fact has led us to some great questions and discussions as we answer those questions.

Why is it so hard to find the Baby Jesus at the mall? Why is it so much easier to find Santa? Why don’t people want the Baby Jesus there like they want Santa?

But these questions aren’t the only point of the treasure hunt. That’s because there is more to teaching our children about Jesus than simply decrying the fact that Christmas is too commercial, or that Santa is more welcome than Jesus in many places. The real practicality of the discussions comes from the following questions:

Is Jesus welcome in our home? Is He welcome in our hearts? What can we do to show both Him and others that He is welcome here?

The answers to this second set of questions are what I want my children to take away from our Advent activity. I don’t want them merely to remember that they didn’t find the Baby Jesus again this year; I want them to make it a habit to evaluate their hearts to determine whether Jesus is truly welcome, and to consider how they can show Him and others that He is.

Have you ever thought about these questions? About, first of all, whether Jesus is welcome in your home and your heart? Jesus isn’t just a character we use for basing Christmas on; He’s the very Son of God, and as such, He deserves to be welcome. But have you ever welcomed Him into your heart and life?

If you have, that’s wonderful. If not, tell Him that He’s welcome now. Tell Him you want Him to make His home with you and be found with you whenever people are looking for Him. In fact, one of His names is Emmanuel, meaning “God with us”. Is He with you?  Have you shown Him that He’s welcome?

Think about it, mom. What can you (and your children) do to welcome Him? Why not make sure you’re doing it this Christmas?

Matthew 1:23—”Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and they shall call his name Immanuel” (which means, God with us). (ESV)

What do you do to show Jesus and others that He is welcome in your life and home?  Share in the comments below

Nothin’ to Say

Yesterday morning, I had the pleasure of speaking to a neat group of Christians about what children need from their parents’ marriage. Afterward, the ladies (and some of the husbands and children) all went out to lunch. One first-time mom named Kelly had brought her infant daughter. She was in the process of sharing cute stories about the little girl when she suddenly stopped. “I’m sorry for talking so much about my daughter,” she said.

We all assured her there was nothing to be sorry about, and Bethany agreed. “I talk about my daughter all the time,” Bethany said, laughing. “If you don’t want to talk about my daughter, we got nothin’ to say to each other.”

Bethany’s point was one we moms all know well: we like to talk about our children, and we talk about them a lot. If someone isn’t interested in hearing about our children, there probably won’t be much of a connection between the two of us.

It’s the same point God wants us to understand. He has a Son who is very important to Him. And if someone isn’t interested in His Son, there’s no connection between that person and God.

The Bible tells us that because of our sin, the relationship between God and us was broken. We could no longer come close to Him because of the huge moral chasm between us. So God, because of His immense and perfect love for us, sent His Son Jesus to take the punishment for our sins so that we didn’t have to. So that we could be reconciled to Him, back into a loving, intimate daily relationship.

If someone isn’t interested in that—if someone doesn’t care about Jesus and what He’s done for them—there’s no connection with God. “You’re not interested in my Son?” God asks. “Then we have nothing to say to each other.”

Fortunately, the reverse is also true. When someone does care about what Jesus did for her, when she loves Jesus and accepts His rule over her life, that connection with God is repaired, and she and God have everything in the world to say to each other.

God doesn’t just save us from our sins and then ignore us for the rest of our lives. He has so many things He wants to say to us. He wants to speak love and joy into our lives, instruction and correction, strength and comfort. But He only says those things to those with whom He has a relationship. And the only way to have a relationship with Him is through His Son Jesus.

Interested in Jesus? A fantastically incredible relationship with the God of the universe is yours for the asking.

Not interested? That’s your choice. But it’s the most tragic choice you’ll ever make.

John 14:6— Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” (NIV)

Hope Now

If you’ve been following my devotions for very long, you know I love writing about heaven. I love thinking about the incredible things God has planned for us and wants us to look forward to; I love encouraging others to do the same. I’m glad and relieved to know that heaven awaits me—that this life isn’t all there is.

But something a friend said the other day on a different topic got me to thinking. It’s great to know that one day, all our troubles will be over. It’s marvelous to have heaven to look forward to. It’s fantastic to have hope in the future.

But we need hope now, too.

We need hope on those days where everything goes wrong. We need hope when grief is crushing us. We need hope not only that things will be better someday, but that we can make it through this day.

Precious mom who needs hope, let me tell you something: hope is exactly what Jesus came to give you. Not just for heaven, but for right now.

Do you need hope that someone will completely, perfectly love you and meet all your emotional needs? God will do that Himself. Sometimes He uses others to help Him minister His love to you, but even when others fail, He can—and will!—pour His love into you until your heart overflows.

Do you need hope that eventually, the wounds others caused in your life will heal? One of God’s names is Jehovah-Rapha, meaning God Who Heals. He can heal those scars in your heart and soul, the scars you think nobody else truly understands, because He does understand. And He can make you whole.

Do you hope against hope that someday, you will feel like you really matter? Like you’re infinitely worthwhile? God has declared repeatedly in His Word that you are already incredibly precious to Him. And He’s willing to repeat it to you over and over, and to confirm it with His love and by His Spirit within you, until you believe it.

Do you need hope that you can make it through another day? He’ll give you His strength to keep going when you feel like you just can’t.

Do you desperately hope that you’re doing a good enough job of being a mom? He’ll show you exactly what to do to be “good enough”—and it’s probably not as hard as you think. You can be a good enough mom. You can even hear Him say it.

If you put your hope in having pleasing or easy circumstances, you’re going to be disappointed, probably often. But if you put your hope in God Himself, you will never be disappointed. That’s because true, life-giving hope is found not in circumstances but in God Himself, and He’s guaranteed that He will never leave your nor forsake you.

Not just at the end of life. But right now.

Deuteronomy 31:6—Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of [anything], for it is the LORD your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you. (ESV)

Note:
If you’d like to know more about heaven, eternal life, or the kind of hope you can have right now, I encourage you to contact me through my website or to read some of the materials already there under “How to Know God”. I’d love to hear from you.

How to Know God

Because of a sinful nature, every human being is born estranged from God. (Romans 3:23) God is morally perfect (holy), and therefore cannot look upon and ignore our sin. In His holiness, He must punish sin.

So where does that leave us? It leaves us deserving of death and hell. (Romans 6:23) It doesn’t matter if we are a “good person” in terms of the world’s standards. What matters is that God is holy, and we are not. In His perfection, God could easily and rightly consign us all to the hell we deserve. But for His glory, and out of His love for us, He devised a different plan.

That plan involved His only and perfect son Jesus coming to earth to live among us (John 3:16), fully God and fully human at the same time. Jesus lived a perfect life, and at the end of His human life, He was crucified by those who did not believe in Him. God accepted His perfect sacrifice as a sacrifice for our sins-yours and mine. In addition, God now counts Christ’s righteousness as our righteousness-yours and mine.

Isn’t that amazing? In this way, though we have sinned, we can stand spotless before a holy God, in right and loving relationship. There is only one thing we have to do, and that is to accept God’s provision of Jesus as our Savior, turning our life over to Him completely.

How do we do this? By confessing our sins and asking for forgiveness. Yes, it’s really as simple as that. God has promised that if we repent of our sins (which means being sorry we have committed them and desiring to turn from them) and ask for forgiveness, He will faithfully forgive us of our sins and cleanse us from their stains. (1 John 1:9)

We can be clean. We can be in right relationship with God. We can be new creatures, fit for heaven. We can live abundant life and have “every spiritual blessing”. We can receive God’s guidance and comfort through His Holy Spirit Whom He will send to live in our heart. Best of all, we can be right with God, loving Him and being loved infinitely in return.

Precious mommy friend, do you know Him? Do you know the God Who created you and loves you immeasurably? Who loved you so much He sent His only Son to die a cruel death in your place?

You can know Him right now. All it takes is a simple prayer in your own words, telling Him you need and want forgiveness for your sins, and you want to turn your entire life over to Him. He will meet you where you are.

To Him be all the glory that your life will never be the same.